I like to share articles that adds lot of value to your day to day life. I read one such article last week about If You Don’t Prioritize Your Life, Someone Else Will
Authors opens the article with the following quote
“A ‘no’ uttered from the deepest conviction is better than a ‘yes’ merely uttered to please, or worse, to avoid trouble.” So said Mahatma Gandhi.
I paused for a while after reading that sentence. I reflected how many times I have said “yes” under social pressure, when I wanted to say “no”.
I’m sure you must have run into several situations where you are forced to say “yes”, but you really wanted to say “no”.
Have you ever thought if there is way to say “no” when you really wanted to say “no”?
Here is an example quoted in the article
I had the opportunity to apply Gandhi’s example of prioritization to my own life, hours before one of my daughters was born. I felt pressure to go to a client meeting the next day. But on this occasion, I knew what to do. It was clearly a time to be there for my wife and child. So, when asked to attend the meeting, I said with all the conviction I could muster…”Yes.”
For students, when you are preparing for GRE, TOEFL exams, did you have courage to say “no” when you had an opportunity to go watch a movie of play a game?
If you have a schedule, stick to it. There is no point in worrying about low test score, when you should have given 100% of your effort.
I have said “yes” so many times when I really wanted to to say “no” just because what would the other person think about me if I say “no”.
It’s tough to develop such a personality. If you are looking to priority your life by saying “no” then here one of the three steps by which you can practice and develop such skills to say “no”
Every time we say, “I have to take this call” or “I have to send this piece of work off” or “I have to go to this client meeting,” we are assuming that previous commitments are nonnegotiable. Every time you use the phrase “I have to” over the next week, stop and replace it with “I choose to.” It can feel a little odd at first — and in some cases it can even be gut-wrenching (if we are choosing the wrong priority). But ultimately, using this language reminds us that we are making choices, which enables us to make a different choice.
I realized at certain stage in my life, I had to say “no” when I really wanted to say “no”, even if its going to offend others.
It takes time and practice to say “no”. Take control of your time by saying no to stuffs that are not important to you at any given instance.