R.S. Khurana shared his experience about hard work, determination and making it big in America and comparingit to lifestyle in India. Re-published from the comment to This is How Life is Like for a Indian Family in USA.
PS: Contents were edited for typos and about 5 sentences were deleted from original comment. Opinion is from the commenter.
I went through all comments. I would say all who are negative had made their life a hell that is why you are having such problems. A brief about me when I came to USA i was 25 I was brought by a wealthy couple from India who needed domestic help.
I was just 5th grade from a Punjabi medium school. Did not understand a single word of English. For 2 years I just went out with lady for grocery shopping and all. I almost worked 24X7 day and night without week offs and no salary.
Even worked as a dishwasher in their hotel. But suddenly in a road accident the couple died. I was left alone out with no money no shelter and the most important no English. I struggled a lot.
Community College to MBA
These days you have lots of shelter homes but during those days there was nothing like that. For next 2 years I just struggled to deal with my basic needs.
After 1 year I was a bit stable with a shelter and food, under a special program I got admitted in a community college.
I studied there for 4 years. Then started working for an IT company and completed my MBA. Remember after my MBA I worked with Google for 3 years.
A typical 9-5 jobs and then I found I should be an entrepreneur. And today at age of 48 I am retired. I took retirement 3 years back and enjoying my life. In last 3 years I have visited places not only in USA but also in other parts of globe.
Indian Family Values
About my kids as someone said that I am suppressing them. I would like to tell you my kids are growing perfectly. They are adopted to American culture. I never forced them instead I thought them the real Indian morals and values. I took them several times to India just to show how our people deal in India and importance of Indian morals and culture.
I am son of a farmer, I showed them what exactly farms are, how crops are grown and you will not believe whenever they visit India, they go to farms to work like a normal Indian farmer family would do.
Boys and girls I am really sorry for your children if you don’t have time to teach Indian values to your kids. Even in a part of my life I too had worked with a big giant it company. I don’t know what you do in weekends or after 5.
Today, before you come to USA you have options to get self-educated. You can see people. You can speak to people over here. You can almost experience america virtually before coming here.
When I came to America I didn’t know where exactly America is? Me and my parents were told that we are going to a far part of Punjab. Being in a very remote village of that time, We even did not know how big exactly the Punjab is?
This is Why I’m Upset
Ok, just leaving this all aside can any one of you tell me what exactly you do after office?
When a bunch of friends come from India to USA for studies, why you guys just forget your friendship as it was in India and start behaving like Americans as soon as you land over here?
Someone said when in Rome be Romans. Can you tell me if you had really become Americans then why do you complain. Americans don’t complain of such things.
And the most important, what kind of work do you have after work hours that is preventing from enjoying time with your family?
You wanna save tons of money and send it to India and again you say you can’t go back to India. In that case what has happened to the money you sent it over there. I guess you made a wrong investment cause now at the place you have invested you can’t go.
Is This Possible in India?
Can you think of retirement in India at age of 45?
Or can you think of such a honest staff at your restaurant in India that manages everything and you just need to visit them once a week or so?
Someone said get to IIT. I know now a days IIT gives just 2 attempts. And if you are average, no university or college or school is going to admit you.
Here in a same and good university equivalent to IIT in India or much better age is no bar or you can apply as many times as you wish.
Last month my eldest son told me that he wanted to become a professional sky diver. We just visited sky diving school to experience it.
Now if you are in India the very first thing which will come to your mind is what is the scope.
Next when you will come to know the fees is 67000$ per year you will just ask him that forget about this.
I have promised my son that as soon as he completes high school I will get him enrolled in it. The other twins one wants to be a pilot and other one a doctor.
My little princess wanted to be a sommelier or just wanna try in Hollywood. She can not even spell these words. I don’t have any idea how much is it going to cost me. And as per Indian values I’m not planning at all for loans and all.
But, I’m very sure that I can make their dreams a reality.
Now let me calculate you becoming complete devoted American struggling hard to earn more working 20 hours a day complains all day that USA is not like India.
Can you do any of these back in India?
You are in America. Either you become complete American and stop complaining.
Behave like an India with your Indian friends and American to rest of the America.
I’m sure when your group and you understand this you will have a beautiful life same as India.
I’m sorry but don’t try to overpower me I have much more and bitter experience then you.
Over To You
What do you think about his experience and advice?