This student could be suspended from Graduate School. He needs help. Can you help him?
I used to think, what is the impact of Happy Schools Blog on people’s lives.
Yesterday evening, around 8:45 PM, while I was waiting in a restaurant to pick-up food order, I was going through the unread emails in my inbox.
Questions submitted via the contact from have a prefix to it. It makes it easier to identify regular emails from questions or comments submitted via HSB Contact form.
Most of the emails that I get are from prospective students asking about universities, GRE and TOEFL. But, once in a while, I get an detailed, well-written email seeking big time help.
Following is one such email from a reader who is facing a challenging situation with his Masters Degree.
I really feel for him and I replied to him asking for his phone number. I will be can talk to him and understand what he’s going through and help him.
As, you read through this email (below), you can see why he’s studying Masters Degree for last 3.5 years.
Before you can read the actual email ( names removed), I want to make something real clear to my readers.
When I share stories that shows the difficulties faced by students living and studying in USA, there is always a set of students who send hate emails or comments for being negative.
Here’s the deal : We don’t live in fantasy world and life is brutal. It’s very challenging for some and for others the path could be easier. I have always posted the reality ( of course with dramatic title to sell the blog post) with hopes of painting the real picture. My goal is to show what it takes to survive, learn, grow and become a better person. I can’t satisfy 100% of my readers.
Alright. Now let’s help this person who might be forced out of his school.
I am JP. I read all your blogs and follow them regularly on Facebook. They have been really helpful, from reading about the universities and life in US to the job search.
You mentioned in one of your blogs that life in US is not easy and should be prepared for good as well as bad things.
I think I have experienced everything over here.
I am in worse situation where I might have to leave country without getting a degree after spending 3.5 years and ton of my parents’ savings (which is really hurts me).
I am doing my MS in Electrical Engineering at WSU. I came to the US in Spring 2011 in hopes of living an American Dream as many other people.
I am a non-thesis student over here. I had GPA of above 3.00 for all the semesters except one semester. But spring 2013 was the semester when things turned bitter and LIFE happened.
During spring 2013, which was supposed to be my last semester, I was taking the last course of my MS, which was the toughest one and did not receive good grade in that due to which my GPA dropped to 2.95.
That course was all over my head during the semester and also affected other things.
I took the non-thesis final exam during same semester(spring 2013), but I was not able to pass it. It was really disappointing because I was almost about to graduate within a month. So getting the GPA below 3.00 was the 2nd blow.
During this time I also applied for my OPT to start from July-2013, but I had to cancel my process. Fortunately it was not approved and was able to cancel it.
One more Year of Masters Degree
My committee decided that I should retake the course, and reappear in the non-thesis final exam. It was hard to digest that I will have to spend one more year. But due to my family’s support, I made myself strong and convinced myself that I will be able to do it.
I worked hard in Fall 2013 semester and got my GPA above 3.00 by taking the pre-requisite of the course in which I was not able to do well. This period was not good for me and went into depression due to that.
I had panic attacks due to which I had been admitted in hospital and was also consulting counselor for my depression.
I also took the course again during spring-2014 and did better in the midterm, by getting a good score.
Professor was impressed with me and due to that, I was able to schedule my final exam again during this semester(Spring 2014).
I had my non-thesis final exam last week, but again for the second time I was not able to pass it.
I worked really hard for this exam, but was really freaked out during the presentation and did not do well.
Now, I think I am suspended from the graduate program. Now I don’t know what to do?
I need to talk with grad school, if they can give me one more chance.
So I wanted to ask, if there is anyway I can stay in US without a degree and still get a job, because my GPA is above 3.00?
I have spent 3.5 years and I do not want to go home without a degree and with this much amount of debt.
These events have almost crushed me and cannot see any tunnel light in near future. I would really appreciate your help in this situation.
Hoping to get some suggestions from other readers and to hear back from you
So, that was JP.
I’m sure there are students who are reading this have gone through tough patch during your course here in USA.
How did you overcome your fears and challenges.
What do you think JP should do next?
Let’s help him with options, so he can get back on track and complete his Masters Degree.
I’m sure, everyone will agree that 3.5 years is long time to complete a degree.
Right now, JP needs help, courage and support.
I know the exact feeling that you are going through.
You are in fact the second person who write for the blog who is meeting with a counselor for depression.
I have gone through the similar situations.
I think it’s your overcome your situation by becoming mentally strong with laser sharp focus. If you have ability to travel all the way from India to USA and keep with 3.5 years of slogging and life, you should be able to face this challenge as well.
I know you are trying to find a way stay in USA.
Try to convince the school to give you one more attempt. It’s ok to spend another semester to complete a degree.
Amount of self-confidence you will get and sense of achievement you will have will be worth million dollars when you get your degree.
You will come-out of this as a better and stronger person. But, as of now, you need great courage.
Watch this video that I made 1 year back
Here’s few things you can do to be stronger and better
- Visualize and imagine positive actions
- Meditations will be of good help
- Ask your counselor about self-hypnosis
- Watch encouraging movies
- Practice your presentations ( 10, 20, 30 times)
- Practice again
- Put yourself in situations where you have to speak to a group
- Clear your mind – take a break
- Read Self-Improvement books
- Stay Positive.
Readers : Do you have anything else to add to help JP complete his degree?