Depressing Life of H4 Visa Spouse Before H4 EAD And It’s Short Lived

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Jeetsu, wife of H1b Visa holder based in Florida wrote this article. As interesting and funny this write-up may sound, but it’s a shocking truth and sad state of thousands of spouses who can’t work in the USA.

Marriage

A year and a half back, when I revealed to people who I was getting married, one obvious question that I was constantly asked was,

“Who is the guy and what does he do?”

“Well, my man is a financial adviser in Miami, and I would be relocating to Florida after the wedding.”

“Oh Wow!

Miami!

The United States!

How lucky?

That’s what I usually got as a response. A lot of people envied me for being able to shift my base to the most sought-after place on this earth. The US – The Superpower.

As for me, I was definitely excited about getting married to the man I loved, but moving to the States, not really.

I was to be going on  H4 visa (dependent of  H1B visa holder), a status that not many people would get excited about. It allows you to legally enter the country and stay here, use the country’s resources, obtain a driver’s license, open bank accounts but does NOT allow you to work!

Ralph, just for your information, I have been a fairly good student, graduated from the top ranking university in the country and worked with one of India’s largest Indian E-Commerce company for 6 years.

I left my job on a managerial level, where I had my own team looking up to me and working on the ethics instilled in them by me. Not being able to work was one of the worst things that could happen to me.

Nevertheless, the love for my husband overpowered the love for my career. I could always find an employer in the US, who would give me the job and sponsor my work visa. My self-confidence was high enough and the Barney Stinson in me said “Challenge Accepted!”

H4 Visa – Life in the USA

So here I am, sitting in Florida, which for the records, is beautiful!

Coming from a place like Delhi, the greenery, the blue sky, the water bodies, the organized government, the smooth traffic, people with the civic sense, all of this was a welcome change.

I am lucky enough to get a wonderful new family, an extremely supportive husband, a beautiful house, a gorgeous city to live in, but jobs? It wasn’t half as easy as I thought.

Finding a job in a country that works opposite to where I come from, with no US education or experience was notably difficult.

How is the US the Opposite?

Well, India – day; US- night;

India – kilometers; US- miles;

India – kilograms; US- pounds;

India- Cricket; US – Baseball;

India- right-hand driving; US – left-hand driving.

The list is long.

Anyways, I took my time settling down to this new place, understanding how things are done, adapting myself to these changes. And then a few months back, I realized that it was now time to pull up my socks and find a job.

One, I desperately wanted to get out of my pajamas and two (most importantly), the US Citizenship and Immigration Service (USCIS) was going to open their annual window for accepting work visa applications on 1st April till 7th April.

If I am unable to find a sponsor before that, I will have to buy a new stack of pajamas to last me another year of sitting unemployed at home.

Reality

While researching on the H1B visa process, I came to realize that all the first time H1B applications submitted during this period, will get a start date for 1st October and not anytime before that. This would mean that even if my petition for the visa gets filed during this window, I cannot legally start working till 1st October.

I not only needed to find an employer who likes me, thinks I am fit for the vacant job profile, is aware of the immigration process, ready to sponsor me but also who willing to wait for another 6 months to have me on board.

Are you freakin’ kidding me!

Wasn’t finding a job alone challenging enough?

But even this didn’t make me give up Ralph. I tried even harder to find a match for me, went for up to 6 interviews in a week, not including the telephonic interviews.

And guess what, I finally succeeded!

I found a job which only met the above criteria but also offered something that excited me.

A job of in my own field, something that I had been doing in the past, something that I am good at and something that I am confident of being successful

Interview and Job Offer

It took me 2 long questionnaires, 4 even longer online tests, 4 personal interviews with 6 different people over the period of 4 weeks to bag it, but all this just gave me a greater satisfaction of triumphantly passing through such a detailed candidate selection process.

Speaks volumes about the company’s professionalism too.

I had such a great time going through all this and finally nailing it just made me pinch myself to realize that it was actually happening to me. The company attorney did the necessary and filed for my visa right on time.

The Shocking Truth

But this wasn’t the end of my woes Ralph. The demand for US work visas is very high. After all, it’s The United States!!

Tens of thousands of people across the world dream of coming here to work.

A lot of them are already in the States like me or the ones who have been studying here and now looking for jobs. But there is also a big chunk of people who are not even in the country…just aspiring to come here, taking their chances by applying for the visa.

As a result of which, USCIS received thousands of petitions more than, available 85,000 work visas that they can issue for the year (out of which 6,800 visas are already reserved for Singapore and Chile applicants)

The government has resorted to the age-old method of a random selection process, better known as the H1B Visa lottery, to decide who all gets the visa this year.

My fate will now be decided by a game of chance.

My career is now dependent on sheer luck now.

Can you believe that Ralph?

What should I be doing now?

Should I sit in a temple all day, praying for good luck? Or should resort to astrological guidance to better my stars? Or should I just sit back and wait for things to happen to me?

The Lottery

USCIS has already conducted the lottery on 10th April, the results of which will be declared to the applicants’ representatives over the next few weeks/ months.

I’m currently undergoing this worst phase of anticipation, where I am absolutely oblivious of what’s going to happen next.

For the first time in life, I feel so helpless of not being able to plan my life ahead.

I do not know if 6 months from now I will be happy waking up in the morning, dressing up to go to work or if I will still be sitting on this swing with a cup of coffee, writing another blog!

In desperate need for a lot of good luck. Please wish me luck Ralph!

H4 EAD Work Authorization

Then came the H4 EAD in 2015 and it gave hope. Light at end of the tunnel.

But, with a break in Career for a few years, it’s difficult to get a job. So, I ended up taking a certificate course. I started getting job interviews from the same companies that denied my application.

Even before I started making progress in my Career, USCIS Plans to Revoke H4 EAD Rule!

Over To You

The reality of being the spouse of H1B visa worker in the USA is shocking and sad.  Do you agree?

Are you on H4 Visa? Do you feel the same pain?

What are you doing to keep yourself occupied and motivated?

Share your thoughts in the comments section.

Related Articles:

  1. H4 EAD Rule To Be Revoked by USCIS
  2. Depressing Life of H4 Visa Spouses and H4 EAD Changed That
  3. 9 Reason Why Finding a Job on H4 EAD is Difficult
  4. Removing H4 EAD Rule Making Process
  5. How to Apply for H4 Employment Authorization

56 Comments

  1. Ja on July 5, 2014 at 1:30 PM

    Hey Jeetsu, your posts take me back to a time when I too did everything in my control and sat by watchin life go by.. Uneventful and dragging! The H4 visa is an insane visa and has no rightful place in this land where they constantly talk about individual rights and everything else! I perfectly understand your pain because I have had my share of lonely days and even today I hate to think about it. The only advice I have is, have faith in God and also, start school and go the OPT route.. It’s def more successful a path.. This is what I feel from experience. Good lock!!

  2. Sri on June 20, 2014 at 2:53 PM

    I am also a H4 visa holder but I made the decision of doing my master’s program even before my wedding, and I was lucky enough to get into the course this spring.

  3. rr on May 26, 2014 at 10:14 PM

    To me author is not different from grred indian politican.
    Greed politican motto is to make money , but here h4 visa intend is to fulfil her career ambition etc…
    For talented people especially with revolution of internet nothing stops like blog , apps etc .. except core engg people

    • Sarah on May 30, 2014 at 6:02 AM

      Dear RR
      I think you are absolutely correct this author surely wishes to do something with her life and she does seem talented too, for starters, she writes so well. I am just amazed to see you are commenting on a 100 liner absolutely brilliant write up (speaking grammatically and language wise) when you can not even manage to get 3 lines correct in your comment.
      P.S. The word is “greedy politician” greed is a noun and greedy is an adjective…:)..:)..

      • rr on June 1, 2014 at 1:55 PM

        You don’t have any right to correct my grammar. You also cannot manage any comments or lines…..

  4. Monday Tye on May 26, 2014 at 4:39 AM

    Many God richly bless you in these tough days. All will be well.

  5. Sarah on May 25, 2014 at 7:42 AM

  6. Arun on May 24, 2014 at 1:12 PM

    Are you jailed in the US? If you loathe that life so much why not return?

    • Sarah on May 25, 2014 at 3:14 PM

      Do you understand English, Sarcasm, Humor and a well written update of facts or were you always this rude, misinformed and a chauvinist?? Just wondering……

      • Arun on June 1, 2014 at 1:51 PM

        Who is this Sarah, man??…. Is she God???? I think you haven’t got any thing exciting in life apart from giving lectures to all the people on blogs!!!

  7. Jyotsna S on May 24, 2014 at 12:39 PM

    My situation is worse. At least you have a husband who understands and loves you. I got married in Aug 2012 and moved to USA in sep 2012. To be very honest life was not all that easy. i preferred to look at the positive side,As i was academically inclined i enrolled for language course. i am French language teacher and an interpreter, In addition to that I am a vocalist who specializes in Carnatic music. I got married into an non supportive family.My husband was supportive of me till this oct last year.After his parents visit his behavior was marked by extreme hostility and indifference. I was subjected to domestic violence and though his parents knew about the abuse they did not advise their son. Suddenly they decided to cut short their visit and flew away to NewJersey. My husband accompanied them.After returning from NJ, he said he cannot stay in the same roof and said that he wanted some space to introspect and restore integrity in this relationship and therefore requested my parents to call me to India or to Nigeria where my father has taken an assignment last Aug 13. My mother was supposed to join him but she couldnot as there were pressing emergencies in my household. But he was so unreasonable and walked out of the simply leaving me in lurch. I was abandoned without any sort of human contact in an alien country like USA. When i called my inlaws for help they did not even attend to my calls. My father almost wept on the phone and urged my FIL to intervene in this matter.But it fell on deaf years. I was running high temperature and therefore had to enlist the help of my cousin to help me to fly out of USA and my father purchased the tickets. I reached India on the 9th of dec and have not received a single phone call from my husband and in-laws. Even my phone calls do not get answered. My husband and my in laws have used my vulnerability in a foreign land to drive me out of the house,by refusing to talk to me and not providing visa papers wants to escape his responsibility as a husband.My H4 visa expired on March 1 2014 and i cannot go to USA unless he sends me papers. we therefore filed Restitution of Conjugal rights in Chennai family court on March 12 2014. He has responded to it by filing No fault divorce in California. So please be careful and think a million times before travelling to USA on H4 visa. Yes It is only to conduct of my husband i was driven. But i do feel had i been employed i would have coped. I am writing in only to warn some of u out there and i sincerely wish nobody goes through what my family and I are going through

  8. Guest on May 24, 2014 at 12:39 PM

    y situation is worse. At least you have a husband who understands and loves you. I got married in Aug 2012 and moved to USA in sep 2012. To be very honest life was not all that easy. i preferred to look at the positive side,As i was academically inclined i enrolled for language course. i am French language teacher and an interpreter, In addition to that I am a vocalist who specializes in Carnatic music. I got married into an non supportive family.My husband was supportive of me till this oct last year.After his parents visit his behavior was marked by extreme hostility and indifference. I was subjected to domestic violence and though his parents knew about the abuse they did not advise their son. Suddenly they decided to cut short their visit and flew away to NewJersey. My husband accompanied them.After returning from NJ, he said he cannot stay in the same roof and said that he wanted some space to introspect and restore integrity in this relationship and therefore requested my parents to call me to India or to Nigeria where my father has taken up an assignment last Aug 13. My mother was supposed to join him but she could not as there were pressing emergencies in my household. But he was so unreasonable and walked out of the simply leaving me in lurch. I was abandoned without any sort of human contact in an alien country like USA. When i called my inlaws for help they did not even attend to my calls. My father almost wept on the phone and urged my FIL to intervene in this matter.But it was of no use . I was running high temperature and therefore had to enlist the help of my cousin to help me to fly out of USA and my father purchased the tickets. I reached India on the 9th of dec and have not received a single phone call from my husband and in-laws. Even my phone calls do not get answered. My husband has used my vulnerability in a foreign land to drive me out of the house,by refusing to talk to me and not providing visa papers wants to escape his responsibility as a husband.My H4 visa expired on March 1 2014 and i cannot go to USA unless he sends me papers. we therefore filed Restitution of Conjugal rights in Chennai family court on March 12 2014 in order to save the marriage.He has responded to it by filing No fault divorce in California. So please be careful and think a million times before travelling to USA on H4 visa. Yes It is only to conduct of my husband i was driven. But i do feel had i been employed i would have coped. I am writing in only to warn some of u out there and i sincerely wish nobody goes through what my family and I are going through

  9. Jyotsna Sivakumar on May 24, 2014 at 12:34 PM

    My situation is worse. At least you have a husband who understands and loves you. I got married in Aug 2012 and moved to USA in sep 2012. To be very honest life was not all that easy. i preferred to look at the positive side,As i was academically inclined i enrolled for language course. i am French language teacher and an interpreter, In addition to that I am a vocalist who specializes in Carnatic music. I got married into an non supportive family.My husband was supportive of me till this oct last year.After his parents visit his behavior was marked by extreme hostility and indifference. I was subjected to domestic violence and though his parents knew about the abuse they did not advise their son. Suddenly they decided to cut short their visit and flew away to NewJersey. My husband accompanied them.After returning from NJ, he said he cannot stay in the same roof and said that he wanted some space to introspect and restore integrity in this relationship and therefore requested my parents to call me to India or to Nigeria where my father has taken an assignment last Aug 13. My mother was supposed to join him but she couldnot as there were pressing emergencies in my household. But he was so unreasonable and walked out of the simply leaving me in lurch. I was abandoned without any sort of human contact in an alien country like USA. When i called my inlaws for help they did not even attend to my calls. My father almost wept on the phone and urged my FIL to intervene in this matter.But it fell on deaf years. I was running high temperature and therefore had to enlist the help of my cousin to help me to fly out of USA and my father purchased the tickets. I reached India on the 9th of dec and have not received a single phone call from my husband and in-laws. Even my phone calls do not get answered. My husband and my in laws have used my vulnerability in a foreign land to drive me out of the house,by refusing to talk to me and not providing visa papers wants to escape his responsibility as a husband.My H4 visa expired on March 1 2014 and i cannot go to USA unless he sends me papers. we therefore filed Restitution of Conjugal rights in Chennai family court on March 12 2014. He has responded to it by filing No fault divorce in California. So please be careful and think a million times before travelling to USA on H4 visa. Yes It is only to conduct of my husband i was driven. But i do feel had i been employed i would have coped. I am writing in only to warn some of u out there and i sincerely wish nobody goes through what my family and I are going through

  10. Sameer Salaskar on May 24, 2014 at 6:09 AM

    At least you don’t have to leave the country. Many students leave country with lot of debts. Be happy for that’s not your case. All the best for your future.

  11. Sameer Salaskar on May 24, 2014 at 6:04 AM

    It is land of opportunities. But they always prefer their citizens and not us. Certainly any country would do that. Put yourself in the place of US employer, you will first look for US citizen. After all it costs them for Visa. So we have to face these difficulties which are acceptable. The order of preference will always be like- 1)US citizens 2) non citizen US graduates (STEM greater chance) 3) Dependent immigrants. Remember, we gave them importance by going to their universities and saying that USA has top educational system and it is obviously. So they will not consider foreign degrees.
    Talking about H1B lottery, the country absorbs large number of immigrants each year. So they don’t have time to check each profile. So talent matters to get job and employer to sponsor visa. Getting Visa is nor in your hands neither your employers. There is no alternative for VIsa lottery. It will take 5yrs or more to check each profile and select best from 172000 applications.So to speed up the process they have kept some quotas for US graduates and Singapore, Chile citizens. Unfortunately you were not one of them. So chances were very slim and they will be more slim next time as no. of applicants is going up for each year.
    Finally don’t cry for what is not in your hands. You did your best. Take it positively. After all they chose you after such challanging screening process because they know you are the best. There are many such cases. In most cases, students are forced to leave US with large debts. Be happy that’s not your case.

  12. bimbu on May 23, 2014 at 11:02 PM

    “I left my job on a managerial level, where I had my own team looking up to me and working on the ethics instilled in them by me.”

    hmmmm…but you didnt even know all these upfront??? All these are same for last few years..nothing new to blame of but your unawareness 🙂

  13. munna on May 23, 2014 at 4:02 PM

    On F-2 visa, struggle is even more. F-1 Visa holders and their Spouses have to survive on very little money. US experience is very different when Medical care expenses are included which are astronomical. People sitting in India do not know anything about hardships faced by immigrants. One good thing is that USCIS allows Green Card filing for Spouses for the H-1B visa holder and after Green Card, you will be able to work.

  14. RRR on May 23, 2014 at 3:33 PM

    Hey jeetsu very nice blog. Me too sailing on the same boat (H4) landed US tried to apply for my H1b visa for consecutive 2 years did not get selected and will try for my luck next year. I did think about the H1b non cap options but the terms with the sponsors did not really sound good from my point of view. Currently engaging myself by doing volunteer jobs. Hope the H4 EAD rule is passed soon and i will keep trying for H1b visa until i get without giving up hope.

  15. Deepa on May 23, 2014 at 1:19 PM

    I am exactly going through same situation. Landed in USA last year , was not aware of Visa process and was not able to apply visa last year . Then i started searching jobs .Unfortunately i did not find any requirement matching my skills . I was Senior Software Engineer with 4.5 years of experience on Automotive Embedded Systems. So next i started to check which domain has more openings ,and then started learning the new technology for 1 year so that i can apply for H1B this year . As you told even i started journey of finding some sponsors,at last i found 2 companies to sponsor. but thinking it is not fair for others i applied with one consultancy. Guess what i am not selected in lottery. I am so afraid of this career gap. I really don t know if i will get a sponsors next year , or will get a job after going back to India because of this career gap.

  16. Jeetsu Ahuja on May 23, 2014 at 1:03 PM

    I really appreciate the suggestions being given here. I already have a Masters. Just want to mention that this write up is not meant to be a medium to complain about my situation, for those of you who feel that way.
    It is just meant to spell out the real time issues faced by an H4 holder, to a larger audience in a humorous tone. Through this article, I just want to create awareness about the intricacies like lottery, the 6 months later start date etc involved in the H4 visa, because honestly, I wasn’t aware of them when I decided to move here.
    If it wasn’t for my positivity, I wouldn’t have come this far in my pursuit of doing ‘something’. I have not given up and never will.

    • Vincent D'souza on May 23, 2014 at 3:01 PM

      Jeetsu,

      Agreed that you have a Master’s degree. But look at the positive side as well, it is bit difficult. At least you will not be asked to leave the US , which happens to many students who have taken educational loans in India , and have to go back when the lottery system fails them.
      Consider the possibility of getting a MS degree in US university preferably in STEM field. The fees are high , but again you are not paying rent or food or miscellaneous expenses. You would get nearly 12 plus 17 months OPT which allows you to work and more networking opportunities for job

    • AD on May 26, 2014 at 7:56 PM

      Less struggle compared to AD guys who have to leave the country if not selected in lottery.

      You are in a bad position but not the worst like the AD guys.

    • Guest_Am on June 2, 2014 at 1:16 PM

      You suck…stupid writer….bringing difference among people by your idiotic article.

      • Shah K on June 2, 2014 at 1:21 PM

        Jeestsu, Writing ones experiences about H4 to H1 in USA is good…but it should not hurt others and this blog would have being written and displayed properly in good terms as well. In that case, it will reach millions of people. Or else people will get a wrong impression if they actually love and respect America and Americans.

  17. yashi on May 23, 2014 at 12:49 PM

    Very well written and I can really understand the tough situation you are going through because I am also in the same situation like you. Its really hard to leave your career and land up here where each passing day diminishes your hope of starting your career back. I can just say that we should not leave our hopes and keep learning things, enhancing our skills because consider this as a phase, which will definitely pass by and if the hope is still alive we can start our career at any point of time in life. If not this year, we will again try next year and remember hard work always pays.

    • Raghuram Sukumar on May 23, 2014 at 12:50 PM

      One more thing – Longer you stay unemployed, it becomes difficult to find a job as well.

      • yashi on May 23, 2014 at 12:53 PM

        That’s true Raghu….but what can we on H4’s do. If you say, join a college and study, the tution fees is really high and again the battle of lottery has to be fought after getting an advanced degree too.

        • Raghuram Sukumar on May 23, 2014 at 1:32 PM

          80 to 86% Selection rate AD holders.
          Less than 40% for Non-AD holders.

          Plus you can always find non-cap jobs.

  18. Lakshmi on May 23, 2014 at 12:10 PM

    Well described the exact situation of highly skilled H4 dependent
    life style in USA. I totally understand because I’m also in same boat. All the
    best for you, all h4 dependents including myself 🙂

    • Raghuram Sukumar on May 23, 2014 at 12:18 PM

      There are lot of things one can do on H4 to stay occupied and busy. It can be volunteer job at local library or food bank to colleges. But, life is tough for H4 visa holders.

  19. Friend on May 23, 2014 at 11:13 AM

    33% reservation for women should be implemented.

    • Raghuram Sukumar on May 23, 2014 at 12:17 PM

      Yeah Right!

    • bimbu on May 23, 2014 at 11:03 PM

      i like that one 🙂

    • Nikki on June 18, 2014 at 7:33 PM

      33% reservation for H4’s should be implemented.

  20. H4 EAD on May 23, 2014 at 10:07 AM

    It’s for people like Jeetsu who are genuine and who would like to work in their field of study this H4 EAD rule should pass.

    But for the rest –

    USCIS is implementing this rule with so much vagueness.
    Does this H4 EAD mean H4′s can work anywhere??!!

    This will create a huge havoc in US.

    US citizens will suffer because of this. There should be more stringent rules as to what positions H4′s can qualify for.

    If we allow all H4′s to do any job in US, many low-earning US citizens will suffer.

    USCIS came up with very lame terms. While H1 has very stringent terms, how can they overlook H4 EAD terms ?

    This is ridiculous.

    • Raghuram Sukumar on May 23, 2014 at 12:17 PM

      H4 for EAD will add 100,000 job in first year and additional 30,000 jobs. Do you know the size of US labor force : 155,000,000. thats 155 Million People. That’s 0.06% So, there will not havoc in US labor market. Instructions gives not not vague, you just need to spend time to read the long rule.

  21. Madhu on May 23, 2014 at 10:05 AM

    You should have thought about these before you marry a H1b visa holder. The dependent visa laws had been the same for decades and was not framed after you marriage. USA is indeed a land of opportunities.

    There is no use in complaining when you already know about H4 visa opportunity in the US and still you have said your marriage vows.

    USA is indeed a land of opportunities for all those who know it better!

    • just a comment on May 23, 2014 at 1:55 PM

      That’s correct. Sometimes these H4 fellows make much ado about nothing. US is a land of opportunity. When the husband goes to work for 8 hrs they could spend this time taking care of house, preparing good food for husband etc. In that way, husband will also be happy when came back home. US is the best place to lead a perfect family life. There is no point in cribbing over small things.

      • Sarah on May 25, 2014 at 3:11 PM

        Who says a progressive, working and a career oriented woman can not take care of her husband and the house. We are living in the 21st century that too in USA- one of the world’s most developed nation. If someone wishes to have a career, a job, an identity apart from being Mrs. so and on…..the country and people around should be supporting them not dragging them towards an unknown and an uncertain future.
        I am amazed in a country like USA she has to fight with cliches- and is expected to take care of the house and be happy about it. I think with this thought there is definitely something wrong with the values we wish to live by and you need some major introspection at your end.
        If she has graduated from one of the best universities in her home town and could find an employer to sponsor her visa i think she is worth much more and can do wonders with her life personal and professional both. However, if a random number is going to decide her life and her future for her than there is definitely something wrong with the system too and the country needs to improve.

      • Madhu on May 28, 2014 at 7:54 AM

        Just a Comment : Women are not born to be serve their husbands and family. Taking care of the family is just one of their responsibilities. They have a life to live and dream to peruse too!

    • Sarah on May 25, 2014 at 2:55 PM

      Madhu I think this is exactly the point Jeetsu is trying to emphasize on….since the laws have been the same for decades, high time they should be reformed and changed. Also none really thinks about visa issues and paper work before marriage. USA is indeed a land of opportunities but then the opportunities should be as per the merit and capabilities not based on sheer luck and a random selection.

      • micky on June 7, 2014 at 4:54 AM

        All Indians aspire to visit USA.If the law is reformed then the 1.2 billion Indians will be in USA.Law is for their people not for Foreigners.She should be thankful that she is in USA and enjoying her day to day life away from the hustle and bustle of Delhi.There are lakhs of brilliant students who don’t even get a decent job in India…one should be satisfied with his life

    • Nikki on June 18, 2014 at 7:31 PM

      She is not complaining! But sharing the pain most H4’s undergo and give up! And in many families, marriage is still a decision made my family and not just the girl!

  22. Arnab Banik on May 22, 2014 at 9:03 PM

    It is very unfortunate and trust me I can feel the pain and frustration you are going through. I wish you all the best and hopefully you still get selected.

    One small advise, I know you may already know this, but may be you can get admitted to a college and get your masters ( I don’t know if you have one). This will give you the time (CPT) and increase your chances ! Again, best of luck !

    • jonat on May 23, 2014 at 12:08 AM

      Perhaps you can ask your lawyer about EB visas. It’s an immigrant worker’s visa. With your experience and educational background, you can easly qualify. If i’m not mistaken, there’s no quota limits and application is anytime.

      • Jeetsu Ahuja on May 23, 2014 at 12:25 AM

        Thanks for the suggestion Jonat. I will check that out!

        • Anitha Prakash on May 23, 2014 at 12:11 PM

          Jeetsu… you should remember that “No pain no gain” … It’s time for you to stop complaining and start working on the things. All the h1 B visa holders wives have gone through this. A small advise for you, try to get some Master degree, do some Voluntary works, engage in day to day activities … if you broaden your vision then you will definitely find a way.. If you have that will and eagerness to do something….then you wouldn’t call this as a “Struggle”…. Try to think and be positive!!!!

          • Pablo on May 24, 2014 at 1:07 AM

            Anitha, even though the situation is similar to other visa holder wives this is clearly not the point, she wants to work and US system doesn’t allow her. Sharing her point of view, she is actually trying to help others. The random selection is a terrible way to decide, thinking in positive doesn’t help you to be selected.



          • Anitha Prakash on May 24, 2014 at 9:04 AM

            Pablo , if you read the blog completely from top to bottom once again … you will come to know that she is just not talking about Random Selection . She started from the Marriage scenario to till day…………… ” blaming, struggling, no opportunities, sitting idle, boredom ..blah blah blah..all the negative terminologies ” …really doesn’t help her.

            H4 holders should thank God as they still can stay in USA irrespective of their selection in Lottery. There are other visa holders.. who are supposed to go to their homeland inspite of their briliant education.

            Please NOTE : Try to think and Be Positive…doesn’t imply to just Random Selection but also to her life in all means/situation.



          • jhamura007 on May 24, 2014 at 1:55 PM

            Hi anitha. Just read your comment. considering the fact that a married lady risks being separated from her hubby. All these emotions whether positive or negative are very well justified. Also none of the above seems to be made up at all considering the fact that I have a similar experience. Considering the fact that indian marriages have a much more strong bond. All the above things in the blog seem totally justified..
            Thanks for your insights though.



          • Crush1234 on May 24, 2014 at 2:50 PM

            Anitha , Its fine if you are not career oriented but pls respect other girls who are, doing voluntary works and day to day activities definitely does not help her career in any way. If she has a good academic background and significant work experience at a managerial level then doing part time voluntary tasks or sitting at home really don’t make any difference, in fact it will still show as a gap in her CV.
            Pls understand she is not a college student looking to do something constructive
            in her summer holidays, she has worked very hard all her life and built a foundation for her career over the years in the corporate world and has all thenecessary skill sets, which is why she cracked the job, but it will be a pity if
            archaic laws and games of chance stop her from reaching her goal.

            Also consider this, just because the laws have been around for a long time does not mean they are perfect, in fact it is shocking that a country like the US adopts a lucky draw approach towards such serious issues. I don’t think you can know all the nitty-gritties of the H4 laws sitting in India as Jeetsu herself said, plus everyone in India
            believes US to be the epitome of Meritocracy, we would never be able to imagine that there are laws that put LUCK ahead of MERIT.

            And by the way, when you say “blaming, struggling, no opportunities, sitting
            idle, boredom” are negative terminologies that feature throughout the article, I think you completely missed the humour in her tone and misinterpreted it as “negativity”, please read up on sarcasm as a form of humour. She is going through such a bad phase, least you can do is to empathise with her instead of calling her negative.



          • Sarah on May 25, 2014 at 3:29 PM

            Anitha
            Please don’t be so judgmental of others when you have no idea how their journey or their struggle have been. For someone who wants to do something with their life sitting idle is the worst think, if she has been like this for more than a year now i think she really likes this country and her life here. and she is already doing what ever you are suggesting. You have to understand a gap in the career, will only reduce her chances of finding a good job and starting from the scratch after 2,3 years of wait is killing.
            You are lucky you have no expectation from your life and can make your peace with the existing scenario. There are very few people in this world who try and walk against the tide and can show courage to demand a change and expect a change. if not anything at least be supportive if all H1 B visa holders “wives” (not husbands) have to go through this don’t you think it not justified and something needs to be done. A country like USA is expected to appreciate merit, brilliance and intelligence. It should not be using a lottery system just because they are too lazy to scrutinize all the applications individually. if it is this difficult they should come up with an alternative system and CHANGE the existing rules.



          • Harsha K on June 1, 2014 at 3:22 PM

            Billiant speech !! Why don’t you put all these in front of US law ? Do you really think lottery system implementation is due to Americans laziness to scrutinize all the applications? You can’t even change the rules of your own country. And here, you are talking about changing the existing system rules in America. You are born bore.



          • Ray on June 2, 2014 at 1:15 PM

            I seriously think that the writer of this blog Jeetsu, wrote an article which really discriminates. I think such humored or sarcasm way of writing should be avoided. And others are just supporting this stupid writer.



      • Senthil Kumar R on May 23, 2014 at 3:15 AM

        Pardon me , If I am wrong !!!, EB visa means other name for green card.. right ? , That will take long time than H1b .

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