I realized few things about outlook among Indian students and it varies a lot (modern vs orthodox) depending on where they are from
I noticed sharp contrast in their outlook towards lifestyle.
Approach taken by Indian students towards US Admission is quite visible depending on where they were raised – Cities vs Towns.
Friend of mine highlighted the differences after reading few comments in the blog.
I told him “Several comments reflect about students being orthodox about applying to USA”.
That’s when he gave his opinion and I thought, its true to great extent.
Students from Major cities like Mumbai, Chennai, Calcutta, Delhi, Bangalore, etc have much different outlook towards life.
They seem to be well-informed about current happenings in USA. They watch several English movies, follow sit-coms from US , follow NBA, NFL.
They are more open and willing to concept of staying with girl friends. When you start watching sit-coms from USA, it gives perspective about lifestyle in USA.
On the other end — many from small cities and towns, have that traditional outlook towards admission process in USA.
After living in USA, same traditional outlook, I had several years back are all gone.
Let’s look at few comments to the blog post – Girl Friend Applying to Same University, Can we Stay together (68 Comments).
Schools keep strict eye on gf-bf staying together…im afraid ,wat will happen on parent teacher meeting day, so beware u kiddo!!
In case of girl friend,
School may consider you are applying with girl friend for fun
School may feel that revealing or disclosing such things can affect reputation of school among parents
And if in such case,if applying students are not informing their parents that we both are applying together, so it means they are hiding the truth and revealing the truth may work against them, more in case of girl applying with boy friend
Whatever hidden or cannot be revealed means it is wrong
I don’t think school will support such wrong things
Also if students are India, parents feeling might also be hurt,
If parents know about that then girls father will think better get married and go to same school
Someone Living in USA
@ Whoever feels the university will have moral issues regarding Girlfriends and will differentiate between husband and wife & girlfriend, guys, this is the US, the precise reason we come here is to improve our vision, the univs and even people in general here do not care about your personal life, they want to make you more comfortable in life, come what may. So if you say you will be better off with your girlfriend, they will help you.
And as far as university telling parents is concerned, guys, this is grad school, don’t confuse it with primary school!!!! And in this part of the world, a lot of parents are more irresponsible than their children so it really doesn’t make sense.
For the guy (i guess his question is answered), i strongly recommend sending out a note quoting your admission numbers, name and stuff to the univs and saying you would like to go to the same univ. It works for friends from the same undergrad college, dont think girlfriend should be any issue.
Basically, HSB has rightly pointed out, I definitely feel the university will give a good amount of consideration if not going out of the way.
I have to admit, I nodded my head in denial after reading the first comment
Schools keep strict eye on gf-bf staying together…im afraid, wat will happen on parent teacher meeting day, so beware u kiddo!!
Since when college going students are worried about gf-bf staying together? On top of that, PT meeting.
Concept of Arranged Marriage in USA doesn’t exist.
It ‘s common for someone to have multiple girl/boy friends (in actual relationship). Several of them stay together for several years without marriage. Some of them have kids and then get married.
Being orthodox is perfectly ok, but not to the extent of above comment.
I find it difficult to understand that students planning to study in USA are worried about parents teachers meeting.
Let’s have a constructive discussion about this topic. I don’t want this to turn out into Big vs Small City knock-out punches.