Hey, I am back with my plate of story and experience. I must say USA is amazing.
Here’s my previous article – This is How I Spent My Day 1 and 2 as New Student in America
- It teaches you to fight for yourself.
- It gives you an opportunity to do something unique or at least try to attempt one.
- People are so humble over here.
Now, I can realize that why Raghu has been so humble all the way 🙂 for so many years now. I feel there is positive vibe in the air. Always.
Even if someone does something wrong or tries to malign you, you somehow are able to collect yourself and cope up with the situation.
Real Example :
Back bitching is a very common thing among Indians here. I came to know about stuff about me that people are saying behind my back. It did hurt me for 15 seconds, but since I know I am here for something else, the ambiance of the place gives me a push to be positive and also “Let it be” attitude.
I would say that Americans are far better than us (Indians) in every way. I know it’s a controversial statement, but this is how it is.
This is the hard reality we need to admit that we fellow Indians (most of us) have got this selfishness and “me first” attitude.
In these two months I have seen a plethora of things and been through numerous situations in life.
Americans have been my best buddies so far. They never expected anything from me.
I can see that majority of my fellow Indians are simply opportunist.
Moreover, there have been a number of situations when I was subjected to partiality or ignorance by my fellow Indian friends simply because I am not from the same native place (India is a diverse country).
Here the respect for Americans grow even more because they are accepting you even you are from an entirely different country.
I could have easily got distraught by these kind of stuff, but something is there in the air of the United States. It somehow gives you a push or bounce to face the difficulties.
What I have noticed in Indians here so far is the fact that they forget the very reason for being here.
For them, the only first week is the honeymoon period and after that they literally start yelling and cynical either because of not getting an assistantship or not being able to adjust with fellow room mates.
Thankfully, I want my whole US stay to be a honeymoon period.
I have been through very tough times for that matter and my journey to study in America wasn’t an easy one, but I always realize the reason for me being here.
I know that I am here for a reason. Why would I want to lose all these just for a small fiddle or say difference of opinion.
I get frustrated telling people that “Hey, get out of these stereotypical Indian attitudes. Why should we crib for small things. We need to make an effort to bring a change in our lives”.
I seriously want to tell my fellow Indian friends about this small life and we all have done so much of hard work to be here then why to lose our dignity and be egoistic.
Learn to Adjust
The biggest lesson USA is going to teach you my friends is “adjustment“.
You have to get adjusted to everything here in U.S.A.
If you can’t adjust to severe situations, America will not be your cup of tea.
Literally, I have seen people over here saying that they have never worked in their whole lives, why should they do now.
My only advice to such people is that you haven’t been to US or any other foreign place for that matter even, it doesn’t mean you won’t go there.
I mean seriously when you are coming to US, you must have a sense of maturity and you should be willing to accept whatever comes to your way.
I have seen people here running from their responsibilities.
How can one come to a place which is totally self dependent and expect someone else to do your work?
Grow up people. You should have known before coming here that you will have to cook, do the dishes, work on campus, clean the house, etc.
Most of us never did any of these at home so how can you even think of giving this excuse that “I don’t know” instead say ” I don’t want to”.
I was mentally prepared for all these small things.
In fact, I am living with friends who know Hindi very well (my native language) but prefer to speak in their native language (some Indian language) all the time irrespective of me being there. This is called adjustment and I am literally ok with it.
Thanks to Happy Schools. I was very well aware of all possible contingencies before coming to US and hence, I am more than happy.
Lack of Maturity
Students here behave lack maturity at times. But, it’s not their fault.
90% of people are here because either their friend was studying here or their consultancy chose this university.
How would you expect a person to behave who hasn’t faced any of the difficulties or faced any hard time.
USA is just a “profit/loss” statement for them.
I know this attitude will change eventually.
At present, they are straightaway out of their comfort zones at home so really don’t know how to approach life.
What do you think about this experience and survival guide?
Is it controversial for an Indian student who have just spent 2 months to blame other students and take sides?
Post your thoughts, questions in the comments section.