Jeetsu Ahuja is on H4 Visa ( wife of H-1B Visa Worker). Being a wife in H4 visa in USA is kind of a curse.
Read her previous article : What this Wife of H1B Visa Worker Said About America is Shockingly True and Sad, you will truly understand the meaning of the curse.
Jeetsu share’s her excitement and what she did in the month of June even though, she wasn’t selected in the H-1B Visa 2015 Lottery.
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… Enter Jeetsu
The sixth month of the year, when most of the countries are getting plagued by the soaring temperature and getting agitated of the heat, I call it my favorite month of the year. It’s what I lovingly call the “Happy June’.
Each of it’s day has to be special and happy.
No, not because I’m a heat lover or I get to see some exotic bugs during this time, but because the summer solstice brings in my birthday every year.
That might sound crazy to some. Such fuss over a birthday…Bah, it’s just another day in the calendar, one might think. But it’s alright, that’s the way a lot of people perceive it (psst my husband is one of them too)
However, unlike a lot of homes, birthdays in my family, have always been extremely special. It is supposed to be YOUR day and every single moment of the day was made special by people around us.
As a kid, it meant a day when I could get away with any blunders I commit, without getting bashed by my parents.
I could even break a glass and not get scolded!!
It meant getting a dedicated ‘birthday shopping’ day during the week, the living room being decorated with streamers & balloons, dressing up in the ‘birthday dress’, getting to ask for anything on the planet as my ‘birthday gift’ and getting pampered like a princess.
Over the years, I grew up and came to realize that my birthday enthusiasm works directly proportional to my age.
I continued celebrating my birthday ‘month’ or the ‘Happy June’ which constitutes of a lot of planning for the d-day, ‘birthday shopping’ (yes, it is a part of the tradition that is going to continue for the rest of my life) and doing something that I have never done before.
It could be the smallest of things like running down an up escalator or getting a tattoo.
I don’t mind continuously reminding people around me for the big day approaching, doing a ‘birthday’ countdown. I just find it all insanely fun.
However, now, after so many years of such madness, I feel a change in my childlike excitement for my birthday.
Life has change upside down in the past year, after I got married.
I am now half the globe away from all the people I called life.
All I have in the name of family here is my husband, who for the records, not only respects my birthday mania but also tries to be a part of it.
But he has a life of his own and contrarily I don’t have much in my life since I’m the infamous H4 wife living in the United States. There is only so much that he can do to make up for my void.
Being a Wife in H4 Visa is a Curse
My H4 status doesn’t allow me to work, so I have no office buddies.
Unlike the people who have been here for higher studies, I have not been to school in the US, giving me no college friends. Since I moved in with my husband, I never had any roommates or flatmates here.
My independent connections here are limited to Publix/ Walmart cashiers, sales people in the mall or the Dunkin guys where I usually go for a coffee and write.
It’s specially during my ‘Happy June’ that I missed family and friends the most, my colleagues at work, my travel mates, my neighbor friends, who willingly or unwillingly, all were a part of my June frenzy.
I miss the time when I used to meet people on appointments on my birthday, when more than often the occasion was celebrated more than once, when I used to count the number of birthday cakes I use to cut….Sigh!
I could never imagine that a practical person like me, can miss such small small things so much, which I probably took for granted back then.
It’s not that I’m unhappy with my life here, it’s just that I miss my old life too.
The US might have given me a lot in terms of a great married life and an even greater standard of living, but it has also taken a lot from me in return…my friends, my family, my financial independence. Nevertheless, I am now trying to create a life of my own too here.
After not making the H1B lottery this year, I have decided to join school for some personal enrichment programs.
I am pinning my hopes on the EAD for H4 Visa Spouses to come to force, or I’m going to try my luck in the next year lottery again.
God willing, I shall be able to grow over this phase soon, because every night is necessarily followed by a bright day.
Coming back to my birthday, I had another great one this year. We made a road trip out of it and drove to Orlando, where I was made the ‘Minnie’ and celebrated my ‘Disney Birthday’.
What do you guys do for your birthday?
Do share… I might use some ideas for next year! 🙂
My next article is about how I meet my Husband in Africa. Yes, you read it right. Africa.
Over To You
Are you on H4 Visa?
What are you doing to keep your hope’s up and high?
P.S. Do you want to share your experience of living in USA on H-4 Visa? Let me know or leave a comment, I will get back to you.
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