If you don’t have emotional intelligence, then don’t come to USA for higher studies.
International Student life in America will be challenging, tough and brutal.
Well, that might sound like an an over statement, but it’s the FACT.
In this article you will learn why you need to be mature enough to handle all situations while studying far away from your home and family.
Real Life Experience – International Student
What I feel is that, whether its guys or girls planning to pursue Master’s here in U.S.A. should definitely consider their Emotional Intelligence before leaving their home country.
What is Emotional Intelligence?
According to Wiki – a self-perceived ability to identify, assess, and control the emotions of oneself, of others and of groups.
Once you leave your home, city, state or country life’s never going to be a nice game. You’ll have to face emotional stresses when having problems with people around you, manage relationships, become a matured, socially and self aware person so that you can live life with peace of mind. Otherwise you are just going to whine like a child.
Here’s an story from a reader – Student Life is Difficult in America, I’m Returning to India
Being emotionally matured is vital if you’re to survive as an international student in America.
Here, you’re surrounded by hardships as you’re surrounded by opportunities at the same time.
Let me give you some examples of my experiences with people on how they handled their emotions on certain issues.
A girl is far from home for the first time in her life. She’s very naïve. She feels lonely and yearns for her mother’s warmth and one day a guy shows up, you know, with the care and advice that anyone would feel very comfortable around him.
He’s pretty clear in his doing – he is helping out others.
Now she has a soft corner, or even admires him but too proud to accept it. He recognizes her feelings for him and says not to mistake his helping tendency for others in any other manner.
Love or Friendship
Now she keeps crying for days in solitude regretting her love for that guy and also blames herself that she was not brought up in a manner where she falls for someone. She couldn’t handle the stress. She keeps on crying. Her friends, get to know about this. They try to comfort her but that is all they can do for her. They cannot keep on doing this for her life because her problem. This is what happens whenever she faces incidents that are sensitive to her.
But before any further talking, let me be clear about something. We’re not here to discuss about love or friendship. I’m telling that you need to have or try to have that maturity level or emotional stamina or mental boldness, for solving problems like this especially when you’re thousands of miles away from home. Because there are no close ones near you to help you out. You have to make it out all by yourself.
Above example is one such instance where people face problems. There are several examples of scenarios in life where emotional maturity is required. People who cannot handle or come across tough situations are going to have to overcome life experiences. Believe it or not – life in US for an international student is not a walk in the park.
You are not going to grow in life without facing problems. When I come across such tough situations, I always say this to myself
Problem will be problem until another bigger problem comes.
Don’t be a cay baby, face life and get prepared to face other big challenges in life.
Here’s another example that shows maturity and courage – Read this Indian Student’s Survival Story. WOW.
I Came Back to America
Following comment was posted at Student Life is difficult, I’m returning to India.
I think its too late to response for the above post, but I have read this for the first time and could recollect all my memories from long back.
Going to USA was my dream. As soon as I completed my post graduation in India, I started all the prep and landed in USA.
For the only cause of less fees I opted a remote university where I could found only one Indian student in the complete university, it was a nightmare since we could hardly find a person walking on the streets and as said by “A” there was no public transportation.
But before i could experience all those problems I returned back to India.
Later I was depressed because I felt, I missed a life time opportunity.
With the professor’s help I could go to USA for the next semester and the disgusting thing is I returned back to India for the second time just within four days. I could understand that people with emotional issues like me cannot survive not just in USA but not in any foreign country.
Did you face similar situations while in US, please do share your experiences.