The past 7 months have completely changed my life because I moved to the U.S. I have learned the greatest lessons of my life in my time in this country and want to share them for prospective students who might be looking to move to the United States.
I still remember the day my VISA was approved and that moment I felt I had won against this world or like I had won a world cup for India and some priceless moments. I never regretted my decision of moving to the U.S., because if I hadn’t come here, I would not have been living my life independently and may not have been learning these important lessons.
I still don’t know how many people think that life in the U.S. is comfy, because in reality, it is s**t. I am writing this article during a night shift in my dorm. With millions of dreams and hopes, I entered the U.S. but have learned so many new things.
I am an introvert and usually talk or make less conversation with people around me but, believe it or not, I changed that quality after coming here. I became bubbly, talkative and started making conversations. Being an introvert doesn’t teach you anything in life. When you need to project your personality in a proper way, one should be open to most of the conversations.
People here love to talk about football and other sports which are famous in their region/state. At the same time, we need to have to-the-point conversations. People also love to hang out with their friends – never say no to that and enjoy the company of Americans. I felt they are quite sensible, possibly because of their culture.
Survival and $$$
Most of us come to the U.S. with one main purpose – money, money and money. One may start their career as a student or as an employee of some MNC. I am still a student, so I don’t want to comment on the life of an employee on an H1 – B visa. Student life is adventurous; it’s a one-time experience in life, especially in a foreign land like the U.S.
Every day is new deadline, a new day. Students’ main motto after coming here is to get an on-campus job. Some may find it easily and some may find one with difficulty and some end up pursuing off-campus jobs. Off-campus jobs are illegal but students have to somehow manage their living expenses and tuition fee.
Money rules here, it makes people stoop to the worst in order to earn it. Money changes people’s character and behavior. At end of the day, people change because they are craving money. Money can make a person lose their morals. I would say that when students have enough money for tuition fees and living expenses at least for a year, they can sustain themselves. If not, they end up transferring universities and taking off-campus jobs. I can say one thing, “Don’t lose your morals for money or else you (will) end up messing with life forever.”
Academics and Plagiarism:
Academics play vital role in scholarships, funding, TA/RA or finding some internship during summer or some early placement. Like students do in India, preparing for an exam the day before never works. If a person tries that, they end up scr****g up the exam. Every week, we have some homework, presentation, quiz or some test. I don’t have any complaints about that because it make us focus on our studies. It may be stressful but when you manage time, it will be easy for all.
I learned how to manage my time. Some students get a 4.0 GPA which opens up comfortable avenues for them like getting the chance to join sororities or fraternities.
I would like to talk about plagiarism too. It’s considered a big crime here .If anyone is caught plagiarizing, the professor won’t rest until till they expel the student from the university. However, the final decision totally depends on the professor. Even copying homework from other students is considered a crime – so I’d recommend caution with regard to plagiarism.
Are you jealous of your friend touring around the U.S.? Don’t be. Most of the Indians see tour pictures of their friends through Facebook.
I will tell you how they go to trips. A student will visit places closest to their campus and upload the pictures. And considering air tickets are so expensive for students, they hire a car along with their friends and go for a road-trip. Not only does that cut down the costs, but it also lets them spend quality time with their friends.
If it is a really long vacation, they have to book flight tickets but if not, they manage with cars by sharing expenses during the trip. I feel one should go for these kind of trips with friends and family because they are stress-busters. I too went for trips and they are really good. One trip I was on, was with a bunch of people I hardly knew but after that, a couple of them became really good friends.
Last topic of this post – Desis (Indian nationals)
What should I say about them? They drive me crazy here every day. My place is full of ‘desis’. I don’t even feel I am in USA. They are good in the beginning but later they can’t bear competition and if you are from the same department, you will be scr***d. I won’t generalize by saying everyone is bad but there are a few of them who are selfish and self-centered – may be they changed after moving here.
Final line – “Simply do your work here and mind your business.” Don’t give a damn about ‘desis’ or what others think of you. No one else is going to pay your loans. Enjoy U.S.!